multnomah girls gone wild

our spring break road trip 2006 (or rt'06 for short) is going fabulous, save for some minor setbacks.
first, the good news:
i have spent over 20 hours in the car with two of the greatest girls ever. we sing, we laugh, we sit in pleasant silence. . . it has just been golden.
i met up with my first college roomate and had a splendid time. i was a bit nervous to see her, seeing as it's been a year and she is now married, but it was as if time never passed at all. i loved her husband. he made us chocolate chip pancakes in animal shapes (mine was a great white shark).
i went back to my old bible college and was overwhelmed with a feeling of goodwill (not what i was expecting at all) and i saw old friends and everywhere i looked i remembered people and they remembered me. i am always positive that i am the most forgettable person in the world, but it didn't play out like that today.
i saw an old friend that i had been needing to see and reconcile with. it went great. christ was there.
i bought a pair of over-sized glasses at target and both mari and michelle have taken turns commadeering them. we have decided that they are magic. everyone who wears them feels ridiculously good about themselves and can't help taking pictures that they secretly want to post on myspace. we have decided to call ourselves the sisterhood of the magical glasses.

now for the not-so-good.

mari got a speeding ticket. well, she was driving 21 miles over.
it is monsooning here in long beach. seriously. there are absolutely inches of water everywhere. i do believe it is colder here than in portland. so, i gues i won't be coming back sun-kissed.
i met up with another old friend today and he is decidedly unwell. i listened to his monologues for an hour and i got sick to my stomache. he wants to come live with me and my family in portland. i felt awful because i felt like my ration of compassion had run out today.


ah well. i hope everyone else's spring break is going well, and i hope we all learn to love each other. i don't know why i just typed that.

does anybody know where a body could get away

i promise my next blog will be happy. it will be a spring break one, so it will have to be wild and crazy. it just has to be.
this one, however, won't be. just so you know.
well, there was homework club today, and lots to write about as a result. i show up at 3:30 to find melissa, a little white girl, crying because abduli had kicked her in the back. melissa's mom was really upset, so i promised to go find abduli and make him apologize. jorge, who works with catholic charities, decided to come along and mediate the conflict between the two kids. big. mistake.
i take jorge to abduli's house, but melissa and her mom and her aunt follow us. we knock on the apartment door and it opens to show us no less than 20 somalians crammed into one apartment. most of them are kids. i see abduli and tell him to come forward so we can talk to him. he bolts. jorge steps inside the apartment only to be pushed back by a very large and unfamiliar somali women. he explains that he just wants to talk to abduli, and goes on to explain the whole situation. she doesn't understand a word. melissa's mom and aunt are standing right behind me, and they keep interjecting comments (sample: "next time the cops come to my door and tell me to stop beating my child, i'm gonna tell them that the bruises are from you!"). finally, the somali women shakes her head, says she is sorry, and starts to push jorge out of her house, putting her hand to his chin. i am standing awkwardly in the hallway, watching this all take place. melissa's mom starts screaming: "next time, i'm gonna tell my daughter to kick your fucking kid's ass!".
i didn't know what to do. the somali's were defensive, jorge was humiliated, and the two white ladies behind me were clearly incapable of reasoning. but i tried anyway.
"they can't understand what you are saying," i said. "it doesn't help at all."
melissa's mom looked at me, and shook her hand at my face. her nails were painted lime green. "well, fuck you. i know they can't understand. that's the problem with those people." with that she glared at all of us and took off down the hallway, screaming for melissa to join her.

i was a bit shaken up, but there was still homework club to be had.
everything was going fine for awhile . . . there were plenty of volunteers and it seemed like kids were actually accomplishing homework. i was pleased as punch.
and then . . .

i turned around to see hassan and shemsa fighting. like punching each other as hard as they could in an i-legitemetly-want-to-kill-you kind of fighting. i missed out on the whole public school thing, so i had never really seen this before. i tried to pull hassan off, but he is a wiry 13 year old, and i couldn't do it. finally, his older brother ali stepped in to help. we forced hassan out of the room and he stood in front of the glass door. his face was so full of rage, and he was shaking. he refused to leave. he was crying, and he was furious at himself for crying. his older brother had to pick him and and throw him over his shoulder and take him home. i stood outside and cried as i watched hassan being carried away.

he had always been my favorite, and i didn't understand what had happened.
i went and looked at shemsa, and hassan had cut her cheek with his fist. i knew i had to go talk to him. i gave it 20 minutes, and then went up to his apartment. his mother had to drag him out of his room. he didn't talk to me, would barely look at me. i explained that we couldn't handle any fighting at the homework club. i asked him to tell me why he did it, but he just looked away. i didn't know what to say. so i stood there for a minute with my hand on his shoulder. i had known him now for over a year, and i always felt like god told me that this boy would grow up to be a leader.
hassan looked up at me, and there were tears streaming down his face.
"i'm never coming to homework club again", he said.

i went back downstairs, devestated, and there were fights breaking out all over the place. homework club was done early. it was too much for all of us.

my friend melissa knew i was hurting and so she suggested we go to burgerville and debrief. i sat with her and sara and nicki and we talked about the evils of this world and about old testament prophecies and how vengeance has to be the lord's. i can't stop people from fighting. i can't diffuse their hate. i can't cure a kid of years of pent up rage, frustration, and anger in one homework club. in fact, i really can't do anything of lasting worth at all. but i have to believe that christ can. i just have to, and i do.

well, as i was sitting at burgerville, giving my ministry back to god, i got a call from halima (one of my somali girls).
"hello?" i said (you always have to talk loud on the phone with them. everyone in burgerville turned and stared).
"danielle? you know tall boy?"
"um . . . ." there were several tall boys there today, "do you mean weston?"
"yeah! weston." halima breathed heavily into the reciever.
"what about weston?"
"he, he walking around saying 'where danielle? where danielle?'"
oh my gosh.
i had forgotten weston.

i ran back to the complex and tried to find him, but halima told me that he had taken the bus home.

i guess, looking back, i just wanted to say this to everyone today:

i am so, so sorry. for everything.

an ode to trippe's car.

most of you who read this probably don't know trippe but i do and i love his car. this afternoon i was riding in it, and it was a messed-up portland march day. black rainclouds, sunshine, rainbows--the works. we drove past the industrial part of town and swerved through traffic. trippe likes his dylan and cash loud, and he was smoking a sweet-smelling something or other. i was quiet, and it felt so good. i don't even really know why, but i felt like myself. to be quiet. to enjoy without neccessarily making the half-hearted remarks.
so there it is. my ode to trippe's car.

as soon as i got out of the car i was immedietly bothered. why should it feel so delicous and freeing to be myself? i guess it's because i rarely am. i asked god what he wanted me to focus on for this year, my 22nd, and he told me this: dependency. he wants me to depend on people, in the best sense possible.

well, i don't want to depend on any of you. you are always letting me down. i don't know how to depend with expecting too much, to love without putting myself first.

thank goodness it's the weekend and i can get some semblence of rest. i'm off to go try on bridesmaid dresses and eat pasta. while watching a romantic comedy, natch.

alphonse is going to be so disapointed in me. but i just couldn't sit there today.

when did i get to this point? i decided at 12:00 today to skip my last class, mainly because it was snowing gigantic flakes onto my cheeks and it just felt like the most logical decision to make. i went into the prayer chapel at my school where i got melted water everywhere and it was so, so cold as i huddled on the strangely comfortable wooden pew and prayed to christ jesus. i didn't really cry, but man i sure felt like it. those are the worst.
i absolutely love and hate portland. yes, i realize that those two words contradict themselves. if you knew me, you would understand perfectly.

i've been everywhere, man.

mmmm. . . i like this picture more than i can say right now.
life is good. i turn 22 in a week. i don't feel ready.
i love my classes, so why can't i write the papers?
there are so many people that i appreciate right now that it is hard to keep track.
i'm happy, but just not comfortable.
and i don't really think that's a bad thing.

minor prophets sort-of help.

i just realized that christ probably already knows what i struggle with. i feel like no matter where i go or what i do, there is a small cat that follows me around. it is a black cat, much like anne lamott's christ figure, but mine is the personification of loneliness. i am tired of pretending to not be lonely. i have given up the game. also, i realized that it is entirely possible to be happy, fulfilled, busy, peaceful, and hopeful and still be lonely at the same time. i don't understand any of this. but days like today, the cat just sits on my bed and won't stop staring.
i think maybe it has something to do with the fact that i don't feel good.